The Importance of Attitude
One of the most important elements in changing any behavior is our Attitude.
Henry Ford once said “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t, you’re right”. He was talking about success and the need to have a positive attitude.
When it comes to controlling anger, if you think that you are powerless, and can’t change, then you won’t. But, if you believe you can change, then you most certainly can and will change.
Nicolo Paganini, the Great Violinist, while performing a difficult piece, had one of his strings break, the crowd was hushed in silence, he continued without missing a note, then another string broke, then another. There he was, playing the rest of the piece with one string, yet it sounded perfect, and when he finished, the audience went wild as he raised up his violin and said with a huge grin ”Paganini, and one string”. He was able to finish with only one string because of his great skill and positive attitude.
So what’s the point of the story? If you have the right attitude, in this case a belief that you CAN indeed beat your anger, and you are willing to acquire and use the skills necessary, and recognize that your coach and others want you to succeed, you can and will.
One of the best statements about attitude I ever heard was made by one of my favorite teachers and author Dr. Chuck Swindoll. He said “The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, then successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company, a church a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past, we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is Play on the String we have, and that is our Attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% of what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you, we are in charge of our attitude”.
As your coach, one of my goals is to help you believe in yourself enough to do whatever it takes to change, and to help you gain the knowledge and skills to overcome your anger. I believe you can do it.