Why is it so hard to control anger ?

Why is it so Hard to control Anger?
Anger is a Negative Emotion that can cause damage in so many different areas of life, emotional, physical, interpersonal, and so on. It is not an easy thing to control, although it is controllable. Why is it so difficult? Anger is a complex emotion that has its root in several other emotions. Doubt, fear, guilt, resentment, envy, jealousy, etc. are all manifested in anger. Anger can be directed inwardly towards oneself or outwardly towards others. It is a reaction to a situation, either real or perceived. Behind many of the negative emotions related to anger, blame is often the root cause. Also having a preconceived expectation of a particular outcome creates negative emotions that result in anger. Because my expectations were not met I can somehow justify being angry. By blaming the other person, or personalizing the situation as being wrong or against me, I can try to justify my anger. On the other hand, by simply accepting my responsibility for what happens to me, I can take the blame off others and I can avoid the angry reaction.
Two principles apply here. One is the Law of Concentration, which states that You Become what you think about, King Solomon mentions this, when he said, “As a man thinks, so he is” Proverbs 23:7. The other is the Law of Substitution, which says that your conscious mind can either hold a positive thought or a negative thought at one time, but not both. Your subconscious mind merely reinforces what your conscious mind tells it. In other words, the conscious mind decides, and the subconscious mind obeys. The Subconscious mind is like a huge data bank that stores information to reinforce what the conscious mind thinks. If I consciously decide that I will react negatively to a situation, my subconscious mind goes to work to provide data to justify my actions. If I am thinking negative thoughts, my subconscious mind continues to feed me data to support that. Thus it is important to substitute negative thoughts with positive ones.
So what can I do to not allow anger to grow? How can I avoid these negative reactions?
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